Be honest… you’re tired of meeting Christian men who say all the right things but won’t plan a date, initiate a call, or show any real pursuit. You get your hopes up fast, then find yourself anxiously rereading messages, wondering if you did something wrong, and over-giving just to keep the connection alive “just in case.” You’re exhausted from entertaining men who talk about God but can’t lead with intention. The truth is, it’s not that you’re unworthy—there’s a toxic cycle that keeps pulling you toward the same kind of man over and over again. You want marriage, but you keep attracting men who aren’t ready for it… and you’re finally ready for that to change.
Single Christian women hire me to prepare for their dream husband instead of entertaining men who are passive, avoidant & emotionally unavailable.
I help single Christian women prepare for marriage on purpose - by healing toxic patterns, negative beliefs, and anxious attachments that's made their dating life confusing and unfruitful.
I don’t teach women how to chase men, manipulate attraction, or “play the apps better.” I teach women how to become discerning and biblically grounded, so they can recognise healthy, marriage-minded men by the click of their fingers to stop entertaining the ones who aren’t truly ready.
I do this work because I’ve lived it, and because far too many Christian women are sincere in faith, faithful in prayer, and exhausted from repeating the same relational cycles - without ever being taught why they're happening in the first place.
Hi, I'm Sophie!
servant, coach + girl mom living in the english countryside
The Refined Woman is a 4-month private coaching program where you can learn exactly how to stop attracting men who don't know what they want, using a simple 4-step process that helps you connect with men who are ready to get married and aren't afraid to pursue a woman, all within 4 months. This program is powerful because it doesn’t just give surface-level advice like “update your dating profile" or “just steward your single season well and pray.” I guide you step-by-step through uncovering why you're attracting unavailable in the first place.
We'll discover why you attract lukewarm men by processing your childhood trauma so you can finally stop the toxic cycle of men treating you like a penpal, we'll begin rewiring your negative beliefs about men, so you can learn to date with excitement and hope instead of dread & disappointment, I'll help you clarify your Godly Partner Vision, so you become crystal-clear on what you want and need in a man, so you no longer settle for passive men ‘just in case’ they decide to step up & you'll apply the strict, yet necessary practical systems & strategies to navigate Christian dating intentionally, so you can filter out the men who aren't truly serious & attract Godly, mature suitors.
The Refined Woman
"Feeling God's grief over my father was just so healing. To understand God's heart around my earthly father's behaviour was mind-blowing. I love what the Lord is doing through you and I do believe my man is from God and will hopefully become my husband so the fact that the work we did preceded our relationship in such an obvious way is special indeed." - Georgia, Canada
"The financial investment that I made for the 3 months has transformed the entire rest of my life and resulted in an eternal impact. I truly believe that God used this mentorship to save my life. Please do not let anything stop you." - Alison, U.S
"The biggest hindrance I was experiencing was just the overwhelming mental torment, shame and condemnation that was keeping me from being able to draw close to God. I have gotten so much freedom and breakthrough from that. I'm truly grateful and I feel that I have entered into a brand new season. This mentorship has been nothing but a blessing." - Alison, U.S
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